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Body Confidence Charm School

I don’t know about you, but the subject of body confidence, makes me want to run for the hills usually. I think on some days when we are eating all the right things and working out a lot more, we feel good talking about this subject.

On the other days, we immediately feel ashamed the second we hear those two words. Body confidence. Those two words can evoke a lot of emotion.

Talking about body confidence almost sounds like a lie, too good to be true. What if I told you it doesn’t have to be?

Would you believe me? Well, this time, it’s okay to have some hope! You can have body confidence, friends.

Body Confidence 101 

Body confidence is the act of loving one’s body and feeling confident in your own skin. Let’s take this one step further. Body confidence is the act of loving one’s body, feeling confident in your own skin, in spite of all the surface flaws you might see.

Remember, even skinny girls have flaws. We all have scars. Sometimes physical and sometimes emotional. There are always people there to point out your flaws, and I won’t lie, when that happens, it stings like a bee! 

The thing that I think is important, more important than anything, is how you feel about your body. How do you see yourself? 

Body Confidence Exercise #1

I want you to get naked and stand in front of the mirror. Full-length is better, but whatever you have on hand is fine too. 

Another thing you can do is have someone take a picture of you in your bikini. Just make sure it’s someone you trust and feel comfortable with.  

Now, spend some time exploring your body and writing down all your flaws, all the things that you hate about yourself. Maybe you have a childhood scar that you think is ugly.

Maybe you have some weight to lose. Maybe you have big thighs or muscular legs. Maybe you feel you are too tall or too short.

Maybe you used to have 6-pack abs, then you had a baby, and your stomach now has stretch marks and loose skin. Write it all down and get it out, everything you’ve ever wanted to say to your body, to yourself, that you always wanted to say, but you couldn’t say out loud.

Now, take those same insults and turn them into a positive. For some inspiration, please read this post that I wrote about body confidence and you’ll get some good examples. It will get you in the right headspace for turning a negative body part, into a positive one!

For example, your stretch marks on your hips are from losing weight. Think about how precious it is to have lost all that weight. Describe it to yourself in great detail.

 Body Confidence Exercise #2

Now that you’ve transformed something you considered negative or ugly into a positive, let’s take this a step further!

You are going to write out all the things that you love about your body, including all the things you didn’t before. Sounds painful, but I assure you, it’s not. This is a very good thing.

This is the part where it dawns on you, that all of you, is beautiful! It no longer becomes the individual parts of you anymore, it’s your entire person and body that’s great, fabulous, and perfect!

Perfectly flawed, well, sure, why not. We all are flawed, but those flaws are what makes us perfect, in my humble opinion.

Those flaws that we see, give us a story. They define us and make us who we are. That’s kind of an amazing thing when you think of it that way!

The thing is, it might sound romanticized, but we are all perfect. Every one of us. We all come in different shapes and sizes, we are all different, and that’s what makes us special and unique. That’s a very big deal when you think about it!

Examples By Me

For example, I like my figure. I have a cute, petite, tiny figure. Sounds good, right? It is!

However, I’ve had three daughters along the way, and even though I haven’t had a lot of weight problems, having kids still wreaks havoc on your body. You aren’t going to walk away without scars or stretch marks in some form or another. That’s just a fact.

I love my body overall, but I hate my stomach. I will be talking about this some in an upcoming post.

One of the things that I didn’t mention in that post is that I have colitis, which means, the second I eat something, my stomach sticks out. Even drinking my morning tea, makes me look like three months pregnant sometimes.

When I work on my diet and shy away from wheat, which contains gluten, it helps to keep my tummy flat. But it’s always there, the little belly, and it never completely goes away.

Even doing ab workouts helps some, but it’s one of those things that’s always going to be there. Instead of continuing to hate it, which I struggle with, I have decided to accept it and embrace it.

I’m never going to have surgery on that little extra skin, but I can continue to eat fruits and veggies and nuts and seeds, that makes my stomach “appear” flat

I keep my weight healthy, and of course, that helps. It is something that I have to deal with for the rest of my life. I want a flat stomach 24/7, but what I get is one that is situational, and is based on self-care.

When I eat right for me, I have a flat stomach. When I do ab moves, my stomach looks better, but I’m always a work in progress, and that’s okay.

I'mm sharing this with you, so you can see, everyone, including me, has flaws and things about their bodies they hate. Turn that hate into a love and into a willing. Embrace the flaws!

Body Confidence Exercise #3:

Now that you’re working on embracing your flaws and transforming them into a positive, you need a plan of action! Actively working on those parts of your body that are “flawed” helps you to feel more confident about that part!

For me, it’s working on my stomach, but guess what? I work on my entire body through diet and exercise! Sometimes I do really, really well, while other times I fall short. Focus on the doing really well part and it will give you the courage and confidence to keep going!

Plan of Action:

Create a plan of action, based on what you consider to be physical flaws! The plan of action will not only help you to embrace them, but it will make you feel better about them too. It’s a win-win situation!

 Here are some Ideas to help you get started:

● Putting scars cream on scars might not make them invisible, but it will make you feel better like you’re actively doing something. Same thing with stretch marks!

● Working out might not make your flat booty, bootylicious overnight, but it’s a start. Implement some glute workouts a few days a week. Make it a priority!

● Need to lose weight? Start a diet that you can stick with. Keep a food diary on paper so you can track your eating habits. The point of this exercise is to make you feel victorious!

● Hate your legs? Practice ballet moves, by implementing them into your workout routine.

● Hate your stomach? Get lots of cardio and start eating more salad greens. It sounds simple, but it will have you lose the belly fat and gain some control over your life!

● Think your boobs are too small? Embrace that halter top that other people can’t wear with larger breasts! You’d be surprised how many larger chested women have told me, they wished they could wear what I wear, but they can’t because their boobs are too big.

● Have large breasts but aren’t thrilled about it? Wear things that take the attention off your chest! Or if you like them, wear some subtle cleavage!

After creating your plan of action, try to do something towards it every day. Yes! Everyday. We need a little daily reminder.

Honestly, working out makes me feel instantly better about my body. It’s an instant confidence booster! Does it make the flaw go away?

No, but that’s not what I’m trying to do anymore. I’m trying to do things that make me feel better about my perceived body flaw while trying to embrace it at the same time.

The Two Most Important Things to Include In Your Action Plan: 

 1. Diet - Diet makes everything better. It can help you lose weight. It can improve your mood. It can increase your energy levels and it can definitely give you body confidence!

2. Exercise - Exercise can increase dopamine and serotonin levels, which give you “feel good” vibes. It is also an instant body confidence booster! It’s as if all perceived slights, fall away when you work out. Doing strength training and cardio!

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